|I look like a teen bride!|
- Like is more important than love. When you're old and feeding each other soup, you need to like the person you're spoon-feeding.
- Lower your expectations a little. Marriage isn't the end-all be-all solution to happiness. You're going to be disappointed by your spouse. So maybe expect a little less so you're pleasantly surprised when they do things like the extra load of laundry or take your car for an oil change.
- A hug can end any argument. Keeping this blog PG-13 ;)
- Have your own interests. Keep up with your friends. Have a hobby that's separate from your spouse.
- Separate. Bank. Accounts. Have a joint savings but keep the day-to-day things separate.
- Kids really will change EVERYTHING. Be prepared because you really will see the dark side of each other. The first six months of parenthood are ridiculously hard but remember that you're in it together. And that baby can't take you both down no matter how hard she tries with her manipulative streak of refusing to put on shoes when she knows you're running late and you can't find her sock and you have to hold her down to brush her teeth while she flails...whoops, I'm losing focus.
- You are the most important person to your spouse. Never forget that.
- Break up the routine every few weeks. Take this as you want; in keeping it PG-13, I mean go to a different restaurant, take in a play or sporting event. Just something different than your normal routine.
- Try at least one thing that you don't like but your spouse does. For me, it's camping. For Dr. T, it's live shows for bands he thinks are "lame."
- Let some of the little things go.
- Your friends and family are here for you no matter what. We all love you both to the moon and back.
I couldn't be happier for you both! Thinking of you and sending good vibes and energy your way as you start your new life together.