Thursday, April 11, 2013

Overexposure

Too many questions.
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A conversation Dr. T and I had recently sparked some serious thought. He worries that by blogging so much about my life, I run the risk of over-share territory and worries that L.E. will one day be bullied because of it.
Am I sharing too much of myself and my family with this blog? Will L.E. one day be the subject of ridicule once her friends find out that I willfully let the dog lick her face clean? Or that I gave her demon eyes?
At least five people have sent me the link to Reasons My Son Is Crying. I think it's cute but it's not something I wish to do with my daughter. Yes, I have my lists of why she freaks out but showing pics of her crying doesn't appeal to me. There is a such thing as too personal in the land of Hip-Baby Mama, believe or not.
I'm not trying to be holier-than-thou. I put plenty of myself and L.E. and Dr. T out there to warrant over-share criticism. But there are some things that I would rather keep private.
I have my little list of blog rules in my head:

  • No topless or naked photos of L.E. 
  • No bodily fluid photos or references.
  • Try not to use stupid texting abbreviations.
  • Proofread, edit, repeat.
  • Don't write about things I don't know anything about.

Then there are our names. Yes, you can figure out my name very easily. With a little more digging, you can figure out the names of my family members. But I will make you work for it.
I have a very morbid reason for keeping L.E.'s name withheld: if a pedophile uses this blog to masturbate to photos of my kid, he doesn't get to know her name.
Yeah, I know that's fucked up. But so is the internet. And pedophiles.
We took an adorable video of L.E. not too long ago. I sent it to my parents and some friends. Someone said we should put it on YouTube. I thought about at least putting it on this blog. But I didn't.
Some things are too personal to share with the world. Some things I want to keep just for us.
Heather Armstrong of dooce.com faced the privacy issue when she announced her divorce. A part of her life that she'd readily shared with her readers was suddenly off-limits.
And that is her right as a blogger.
Yes, blogging does bring about some level of exploitation of my family. And if I ever achieve the level of fame and respect some of my favorite bloggers do, I'll hopefully handle it with the right grace and dignity that they do.
And with that includes the backlash.


2 comments:

  1. You're so right! :) You are doing absolutely nothing wrong at all. I respect your decisions, especially when it comes to YouTube. I personally will randomly post videos of my son on Youtube. But, not many. :)

    I found your blog through Bloggy moms! :) Please feel free to check out my blog, and follow me back.

    I look forward to reading more of your blogs.

    - Melly

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    1. Thanks, Melly! What is the name of your blog so I can follow back?

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